Belonging Is Not a Modern Longing
Spirit School Podcast
Episode:
Belonging is not a modern longing
by Danielle Searancke
Belonging is not a modern longing
I opened my fourth Sacred Spirit Retreat with this topic because I think it's something a lot of us are quietly carrying. Not the performance of belonging. Not being liked or included. The actual felt sense of it in your body, the regulated nervous system state that says: I am safe here. I am home.
This episode is one of the most personal things I've shared on the podcast. I go somewhere I haven't talked about publicly before.
What Belonging Actually Is
This is not about being liked. It goes much deeper than that. Brené Brown's distinction between belonging and fitting in changed one of my core filters for how I spend my time, I share why Belonging is a nervous system state, not a feeling, and that distinction changes everything about how you pursue it The small community moments, like the Squamish acknowledgement nod, that quietly built my sense of home over 20 years of living here Why so many spiritual people are still searching for belonging even inside spiritual communities
The Place I Hadn't Been Able to Name
Last summer a friend said something to me in the car that I hadn't been able to say to myself. That my deepest place of not belonging lives inside my own Indigenous reconnection journey as a Swampy Cree woman. I share what that revelation felt like and what I have been doing with it since How spirit responded by leading me to a 50 year old book called The Wishing Bone Cycle: Narrative Poems from the Swampy Cree Indians I close with a reading of the Turtle poem and one simple invitation: scan the room wherever you are and make someone belong. Even just for a minute.
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